First things first – can you have success dating if you can’t meet the girl? Approach anxiety is landing in the way of your happiness, and it must be overcome!
Some people think that approach anxiety can’t actually be overcome. Some people think that approach anxiety is hardwired into our genetic makeup. Others insist that approach anxiety actually can be overcome.
These are a couple of approaches that men have found useful in overcoming approach anxiety:
Approach Anxiety can be Overcome in 3 Seconds!
It’s easy to put this approach to work. Here’s how it works: the more time you spend contemplating approaching a particular woman, the more anxious you’ll become about it – and the less likely it is you’ll ever say “hello” to her. Don’t give the fear any time to build up. The minute you see a woman you’d like to meet, approach her within three seconds. To be effective, you’ve got to commit to doing this all the time. Don’t waste time or opportunities thinking up exceptions or excuses, though, or you won’t have any time left for meeting wonderful women! Of course, reality rules: if circumstances absolutely forbid meeting her, such as when you’re late for work or she’s in the process of getting married, then you can let it go, but if you’re in a social situation like a club, go for it!
Cold Cash Can Defeat Approach Anxiety
A wingman is necessary to this approach, but it’s remarkably successful. For some guys, just having a buddy there watching is sufficient motivation to get out there and meet women.
If more motivation is necessary, though, do this: give your wingman five $20 bills or 10 $10 bills. You get the money back – in chunks of $10 or $20, every time you approach a woman and actually talk with her. You have to talk beforehand to determine how much he gives you back each time, and if you get more for a longer talk. If you don’t go out and meet women, then, you’re going to go home broke!
Of course, in the final analyses, these are just patches, temporary fixes for a problem. Using these approaches doesn’t end approach anxiety, it just helps overcome it for the night. Approach anxiety can be eliminated from your makeup entirely, but doing that will mean getting down to the root cause of the problem.
I don’t agree with the people who claim that approach anxiety is something we’re born with. I think it’s something we learn, something we pick up while we’re growing up.
When you consider it from an truly analytical perspective, it’s reasonable to conclude that the problem underlying approach anxiety is shame.
It’s shame that you’re feeling when you’re experiencing approach anxiety. Maybe you’re uncomfortable with yourself – a good enough reason to be reluctant to bring someone into your life. Maybe you think you shouldn’t be talking with a beautiful woman. It’s hard to tell. No two people are alike, and it’s not good to paint people with a broad brush.
If you enjoyed this article and you’re ready to conquer approach anxiety and start meeting women, check out overcoming approach anxiety and approach anxiety help.
